WellnessByRuby

  Everyone who knows me knows that I am  and probably always will be a hopeless romantic. I have just always loved love. Right from when I was little girl when I was obsessed with Disney princess movies and the love between the prince and the princess. I think I hoped one day I would fine my own Knight  in shining armour. Throughout my childhood and teen years I started watching more and more romance movies and  books and the more I read and watched the more of a hopeless romantic I became. The problem was, however, that the books and movies where not reality, love was always portrayed in such an idealistic and perfect way which is not the reality of what love is. Love is also portrayed to be always romantic between two people ,however, there are so many other types of love in the real world which I will get in to later that this picture of what love is, is so far from the truth.  I recently just finished a book ironically about Love, however it is not what you ...

I was not planning on writing a blog today, however someone in my personal life is struggling at the moment and I really feel like I am meant to write one today in hopes that I can help them. There's nothing worse then seeing those you love hurting and so I want to try and help them and hopefully anyone else who is struggling at the moment as well. Honestly we all need a reminder to seek joy and laughter even when we are feeling down.  But how do we do this? How do we find happiness and laughter even when we may be feeling low? I'm pretty sure that's what you are all are asking me right now, but don't worry because I do have the answer to your questions but firstly I want to talk about the importance of laughter. Why is laughter so important?  Laughter enhances your intake on air which as a result stimulates the heart, lungs and muscles and increases the  beta-endorphins released by your brain. These endorphins are 'feel good chemicals' that make you feel better...

  Our society constantly has these changing views and expectations of what beauty is and what it should be and it can be really hard on us all to try and meet these unrealistic expectations. I in particular have struggled to cope with them and have fallen short to comparing myself to others and feeling insecure in myself as a result. Recently, for some reason I have struggled with it a lot more and so I decided to talk to God about it and seek his guidance. What I realized was that God had been showing me what the right standards with regards to what beauty was all along through the Bible, however I just wasn't listening or understanding at the time, but now that I finally do, I want to share with you all what I have learnt and understood about the standards of Beauty God wants us to have.  What some people don't realise is that the Bible has a great deal to say about both inner and outer beauty. There are many women in the Bible who are noted for their beautiful appearance su...

   I know what you are thinking backpacking at 18 years old you must be mad! Freshly out of college no real-life experience and travelling Europe without the safety net of parents to help guide me. But trust me when I say it was the best decision and experience of my life so far. From the minute I landed in Budapest the reality of what I was doing had sunk in. I was in a foreign country with no real idea what I was doing there, and I was about to meet a group of people from around the world I had never met before. A mixture of feeling scared and feeling excited had washed over me. After a bit of a commotion with the Ubers outside the airport I finally made it to the first hostel where I was greeted with the first person, I would be spending the next few weeks with.  I say greeted I went into my hostel room to find a lad around my age fast asleep on one of the bunkbeds.  Not wanting to wake him I remember tip toeing around the room in the dark unpacking my stuff. Soo...

  Confidence is something we all tend to struggle with. We all have our own insecurities about ourselves, and it seems that coming to Uni can heighten these insecurities. Suddenly you are placed in this brand-new environment surrounded by people you don’t know and you need to make friends all over again, as if you are back in primary school. There is now this strong desire to act a certain way, look a certain way and be a certain way in order to be liked as well as desired by other people. So, you start by just tweaking one element of yourself whether that be with your looks or personality. Then you go and tweak another element. Then another. Before you know it, you have completely changed who you are as an individual, you are unrecognisable to yourself, playing this constant act in your own life. Not only this but you come to this realization that the people you have now surrounded yourself with are not actually people you particularly like or are your sort of people. Sounds fa...

  I spent majority of my life being told that I was too much. That I was too emotional and too sensitive. I was told a lot that I needed to get a grip, and I felt like I was judged a lot for feeling things so deeply whether that was in a positive or negative way. After nearly 20 years I’m here to tell you that it’s okay! It’s okay to feel things deeply and now that I have finally accepted myself as being a sensitive girly I am here to help you to do the same. First, you need to understand that being emotionally sensitive means you  simple have  a big heart and soul and that is NOT I repeat NOT something to ever feel ashamed or embarrassed of. For the longest time I was ashamed of who I was, being that I am a highly sensitive person and I could never quite understand why I felt things on such a deep level in comparison to some of my friends and family. It confused and frustrated me.  I hated how sensitive I was  because why  did it feel like I was  ...

  I recently listened to the song ‘Vienna’ by Billy Joel and wowww did the lyrics hit home.  For those of you who have never heard of it before the song starts off saying; “Slow down you crazy child, you’re so ambitious for a juvenile, but then if you’re so smart, then tell me, why are you still so afraid?”   I mean wow come on you cannot tell me those first few lyrics didn’t hit home for you. As a girl trying to conquer the beginning of her early twenties these lyrics really made me sit and stare at a wall for a good 20 minutes. Why you ask? Because it made me realise that I needed to stop being so afraid. Afraid I’m making the wrong decisions. Afraid I’m surrounding myself with the wrong people or getting myself in sh*t tons of debt at Uni and not have the career I dreamed of after it.  Or I’m Afraid I’m going to mess something up and it have this disastrous detrimental impact on the rest of my life (dramatic I know). But I guess you could say I realised I wa...

  We are all victims to the doom scroll, we go onto Social media with the intention of coming off it in 5 minutes only to still be on it an hour or even longer later. It is a toxic addiction and it is not healthy. Healthy things are supposed to make you feel good about yourself, mindlessly scrolling on social media and comparing yourself and your life to others does not make you feel good. Don’t get me wrong I am very much guilty of doing this, however, I know that there is so  much more I can do with my spare time which will make me feel a whole lot better and give me a greater sense of self-worth which is why I have created a list of things that you can do instead of scrolling. But before I dive deep into the many things you can do instead of being on your phone, I wanted to share the benefits and importance of doing a digital cleanse. Taking time away and disconnecting from social media is one of the best acts of self-love there is as it will allow you to take better care ...

  I properly started my Faith journey about two years ago now and I am still very much at the beginning of it. I still have so much to learn, so much to understand and ultimately I still have a long way to go. However, that's okay because I have the rest of my life to do so. These past few years have shown me that having Faith and allowing myself to open my heart is the best and most rewarding thing I have ever done. Don't get me wrong though, I still have so many ups and downs with my Faith through different seasons of my life. However, unlike before where I didn't understand why I was going through what I was going through, now through my growing relationship with Jesus I have a much clearer understanding . I am so excited to see where my faith journey is going to take me next and I will carry on sharing my experiences  and advice throughout my journey with you all.      I have written this  particular blog to share with you all some personal advice on t...