Falling in love with the life you have now

 

Its so easy to get caught up in the future. Stressing and worrying about trying to stay on track with the life you have planned for yourself. 

Go to Uni, go travelling, get a good career, buy a house , get married and later on have kids and settle down. 

I may have just described your exact life plan or if not you get the idea. The problem is life doesn't always turn out how we expect it to and you can only control it to a certain extent. 

Therefore all of this worrying and stressing about trying to get your life to look a certain way by a certain time is kinda pointless. 

Yes we need to have ambitions, dreams and aspirations for our life don't get me wrong that is still so important ,however, we should not get so caught up in the future we forget to live in the present. 

What many of us forget or even realise is that where we are right now in our life is where our past selves dreamed of being. Yet, we are so caught up in constantly seeking more and finding more in our lives we forget to appreciate and love the life we have right now. We have ultimately missed the beauty of just being here.

But how can we learn to be in the present moment and love the life we have now? Down below I have a little list of things I have learnt and done to help ground me and bring me back into the present moment and love the life I have right now which may help you as well;

Slow down and notice 

We've all heard the sayings "slow down and look around once in awhile"  or "Don't forget to stop and smell the roses". We hear them but do we actually listen to them. What if we did? What if life really is about slowing down and looking at the smaller details rather than rushing through our days. We are so focused on what we need to do and if we will have time to check everything off our-to do lists that our  are minds constantly racing. 

But what if we allowed time to stop at a café or sit in a park and just observe. Notice the life around you- the birds singing in the trees, the gentle breeze in the air, children laughing and playing in the park, the sun hopefully shining now that it is spring. Just watch as people go about their day to day lives and focus on all the positives and good that you see right now in the present moment. 

Slowing down to notice can help to calm our minds and ground us back to the present moment. It can remind us that there is a much bigger world outside of the little bubble we often keep ourselves in. 

Stop comparing your journey  

You need to start accepting that your path in life is going to look different to others and that's okay! Stop trying to compare your chapter to someone else's it will not help you in anyway and if anything it will slow down your journey to where you want to be in life.

 Some of us will get married young while some of us will never get married. Some of us will have kids in our twenties while some of us may not be able to have children till we are in our thirties. And that is okay! Life is going to look so different for each of us and the most important thing we can do is to focus on our life right now and nobody else's. 

Celebrate the small wins 

Celebrating the small wins can boost your mood and improve your confidence in your accomplishments. It can also help you to appreciate the journey you are on even more and acknowledge how far you have already come. 

Change your mindset 

Sometimes all it takes to fall in love with your life now is to change how you view it.  For example ' you are able to go to the shops and pick out any food you want' rather than moaning about having to go to the shops. Or 'my body is healthy and I 'am able to move my body at the gym'. You get the idea its all about changing your perspective and attitudes towards your life. 

Practice gratitude

Wake up every morning and count your blessings, count everything in your life you are grateful for. Or at least list three things. Doing this will help remind you how good your life is and help you to enjoy your life now.

My one main wish is that we will all wake up  and appreciate our life now and that we will reject the notion that we have to have perfect bodies, perfect faces, perfect careers, families, relationships etc to have a truly happy life instead we will  just be grateful for what our life looks like now. 

I hope that this blog will remind you to love your life now. To fall in love with all the little things . If your life is particularly hard right now and your needs aren't being met, work to change what isn't working but don't get too focused on what you want that you forget what you already have.

Love always,

Ruby xo